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Parental Alienation: A Father's Pain
04-21-2017, 03:01 PM
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Parental Alienation: A Father's Pain
Dan Abshear, left, was a pharmaceutical rep earning six figures when, in 2006, he
became a whistleblower and committed career suicide.

Not only did he lose his job, but thanks to family law, his wife banished him and alienated his daughter, Hayley. As he describes below, this was the most painful loss of all.
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(Editor's Note- I invite readers to describe how they would react if they were in Dan's shoes. hmakow@gmail.com)




by Dan Abshear
(henrymakow.com)

Never would I ever thought I would experience the severe trauma of parental alienation.

According to Wikipedia, Parental alienation is the process, and the result, of the psychological manipulation of a child into showing unwarranted fear, disrespect or hostility towards a parent or other family members.

First of all, I raised my daughter Hayley alone the first 10 years of her life in a town west of St. Louis, Missouri where we lived. During that time her mother wanted nothing to do with her, and that was obvious not only to myself but others as well. So I was the primary caregiver. During that time, I spent a lot of time with Hayley trying to be the best father I could be.

Around the age of 10, Hayley's mother started spending time with her. Apparently, Hayley's mother felt she could manipulate Hayley at that age.
FALSE CHARGES

In 2009, when Hayley was 11, her mother falsely accused me of physically abusing her and as a result I lost everything and everyone really. So I left the state and moved to Georgia. After the false allegations, and losing everything I began writing Hayley letters.

At first Hayley responded to my letters; they seemed to give her needed peace and happiness. And that was my intention. In 2011, I got a bunch of money and mailed her a thousand dollars. Hayley later told me she shared that money with her mother.

Then something happened and Hayley stopped responding to me, although I continued to hand write beautiful letters at least once a week until the year 2016. Hayley eventually told me she did read and receive all the letters.

In 2015, I was living in Milwaukee, Wisconsin and decided to move back to Missouri to attempt to see Hayley. There was a warrant for my arrest in Missouri for violating a restraining order so I turned myself in once I arrived in St. Louis. Then I did 3 months in jail for that offence.
I wrote Hayley often in jail and asked that she see me in jail. So one time Hayley did see me in jail.

And I did not recognize her when she approached me in jail, as I had not seen Hayley in 4 years at that time. The visit on the phone with Hayley in jail went rather well I felt.

Once released from jail, I asked Hayley to see me at my parents house. So one evening she came to my parent's house and I spent a few hours with Hayley. All things considered that evening went very well. During that visit with her I learned that Hayley viewed me as violent, unstable and aggressive. None of which is true. This visit with Hayley was good I feel, but Hayley was distant. At the end of that visit Hayley told me she wanted to see me on fathers day.

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So I arranged to meet Hayley at a restaurant the evening of fathers day. Once there we sat down and I got the impression that Hayley did not want to be there with me. So at the restaurant I told Hayley to leave if she wanted to and she did in fact leave me alone in that restaurant. That was the last time I saw Hayley, which was the summer of 2015.

Since then Hayley has not responded to my attempts to contact her through handwritten letters and email. She has me blocked on Facebook. Keep in mind, I did absolutely nothing to cause this behavior.

Her mother falsely accused me of abusing her because she did not like that I discovered she is a lesbian. This parental alienation is part of her vendetta to destroy me. She has been partially effective I'm sad to say.

Hayley has been saturated with anger and hate so much that she will not speak with me or contact me in any way.

I gave Hayley over 10 years of my life. At times women would cry seeing Hayley and I together wishing their own dads would of been like me.

As a result of the separation, I have at times been suicidal and noticeably self destructive. This life is destroying me slowly and painfully. Parental alienation cannot be prevented or treated effectively now. Because the causes of parental alienation are truly evil.

CONCLUSION

When I saw Hayley 2 years ago I noticed immediately that the sparkle is now gone from her eyes, but her eyes are clearly not vacant. Hayley is 19 years old now. Hayley now seems to be completely saturated with anger and hate that I feel more than I see. Her mother gave her these things. Hayley has adopted her mothers behaviors, which completely lack any beauty.

So now it does not seem like Hayley is really a good person.

I grieve for a person who is still alive. Hayley was a reason I wanted to live. This life I created ironically has put me in a state of bleeding atrophy, apoptosis, and I feel this every day, as I experience my self-destructive patterns and I intentionally wreck myself.

No one can conceptualize this pain I feel.

Not all fathers love their children. Many fathers separated from their children by force simply give up.

Through my writing to Hayley, this compliments what I share with the world, as I attempt to illustrate a fathers love of their child with honesty while often fighting hostile forces.

At times I see loving fathers with their daughters. They remind me of the relationship I once had with Hayley. Viewing this gives me a unique combination of joy and pain. I thank these men for being such great dads.

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---------Hitting Bottom: A Personal Story


New First Comment from Stephen Coleman-

As other respondents have reported the court system is skewed against the male. When a man is charged of abuse the constitution no longer holds, you are now guilty and must prove your innocence. You will have restraining orders placed against seeing your children without any proof required.

CPS is notorious for going to schools and getting children out of class and spending hours interrogating them to the point that they will say anything just to get the agents to stop. This should be considered child abuse at the worst. One child told me that the interrogator was so drunk that he couldn't get out of his chair. One child said "okay, okay my father molested me, but I don't remember him doing it". This statement cost her father a year in jail awaiting trial. He lost his home, car, job... everything, though he was found innocent.

A sad development with Military families is mothers wanting a divorce will charge husbands with molesting their children. The hell these men go through lasts a lifetime.

CPS has been infiltrated by Satanists and these people are nasty beyond belief.

As in the article, mothers will turn their children against their fathers by incessantly railing against them. In the case of mental illness a paranoid mother can turn the children paranoid and into professional victims. The children of such relationships grow up into dysfunctional adults that will perpetuate the craziness to the next generation.

Its such a sad situation for tens if not hundreds of thousands of men and the main cause of the growing MGTOW movement. There is little advantage to marry or have children within such a hostile state atmosphere.

Other than kidnapping our child and fleeing to a foreign nation, a man must bear the injustice of the "justice" system and go on to build himself a new life and it's not easy especially if he has a criminal record. He likely will never find meaningful work and will have to live on the fringes of society the rest of his days.

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04-21-2017, 03:06 PM
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All that and the daughter is a dirty lesbian. .

--I Eat Grits--
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04-21-2017, 09:35 PM
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The chick Ive been seeing is 3 months pregnant. Found out last Friday. Now shes being shitty. Looks like Im going 0-2 for kids...

It seems like as soon as I get one pregnant they change.. Thats a dangerous time for men.. Most men I feel dont survive early pregnancy... Thats the most crucial stage.. Most men get kicked to the curb or replaced in early pregnancy
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04-22-2017, 09:39 AM
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Thankfully my ex wasn't completely successful with her attempts to alienate me from my own kids, but she damn well tried.

Now that they're all grown up, they know she's the insane one. Hopefully when this guy's kids grow up they will see the truth.
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04-23-2017, 01:37 AM
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(04-21-2017 09:35 PM)Mad Mike Wrote:  The chick Ive been seeing is 3 months pregnant. Found out last Friday. Now shes being shitty. Looks like Im going 0-2 for kids...

It seems like as soon as I get one pregnant they change.. Thats a dangerous time for men.. Most men I feel dont survive early pregnancy... Thats the most crucial stage.. Most men get kicked to the curb or replaced in early pregnancy

That's only if you are dating trashy women that just want to be on welfare.

I guess it didn't matter whether we elected Clinton or Trump.
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