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Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.
09-08-2016, 02:46 AM
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Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.
Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.

“It’s a highly motivated, ambitious generation,” says Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University and chief scientific adviser to the dating site Match.com. “A lot of them are afraid that they’ll get into something they can’t get out of and they won’t be able to get back to their desk and keep studying.”

As Michael Cunningham wrote, “You cannot find peace by avoiding life.” Sure, any attempt to have a life outside of work will keep you away from your desk. And it’s true that we live in fraught times, with massive student loan debt and decreased job security. But overwork, with all else perceived as a distraction, is no tool to cultivate joy.

The sense of caution sometimes manifests itself as a heightened awareness of emotional pitfalls. For example, many young people speak disparagingly of the messy emotional state love and lust can engender, referring to it as “catching feelings.”

Humans have feelings. Fairly unavoidable. See: brain chemistry.

Noah Patterson, 18, has never had sex. “I’d rather be watching YouTube videos and making money.” Sex, he said, is “not going to be something people ask you for on your résumé.”

Lots of miserable people with cool resumes out there.

Online life “ends up putting a lot of importance on physical appearance, and that, I think, is leaving out a large section of the population,” said Twenge, who teaches psychology at San Diego State University. Unlike in face-to-face meetings where “you can seduce someone with your charm,” she said, dating apps are “leaving some people with fewer choices and they might be more reluctant to search for partners at all.”

What’s even sexier than an avatar? A flesh-and-blood human with flaws and personality.

That is Patterson’s takeaway. “Third-wave feminists seem to be crazy, saying that all men are participating in this rape culture.” He opts for porn instead. “It’s quicker. It’s more accessible. What you see is what you get.”

Flesh-and-blood humans carry traumas born of their experiences on a complicated and oft-cruel planet. Some of these traumas are sexual. Rather than pathologizing humans who’ve survived sexual trauma, perhaps you could recognize that they did not create the environment that harmed them, and work to be a source of understanding and support.

Abstinence may not be such a considered choice for everyone, though; there can also be environmental factors. For example, the use of antidepressants, which doubled between 1999 and 2012, can reduce sex drive.

This is real. Those who take antidepressants: Good on you for getting the help you need. Those who don’t: Find a way to understand and support flesh-and-blood humans dealing with depression.

The decision to indefinitely avoid sexual relationships from a place of fear is deeply understandable.
Why is sex a necessary or good thing, given all these concerns?

It isn’t an absolute good. It’s only good if it’s a thing you want to do, if it’s an act that brings you fun or connection or pleasure. The problem isn’t that millennials are having less sex, but that many of their reasons reveal warped values and a fear-based approach to existence. Here’s a generation swearing off a life-affirming and life-creating act in record numbers, simply because they don’t know what to do with it.

Most people are rational actors, in so far as their fears are connected to their experiences. There are many anecdotal and quantitative indications that sex among millennials is a real landmine for hurt and misunderstanding. In some ways, this hurt is heightened by the advent of distancing technologies like Tinder and texting. But the challenge of navigating closeness with and care for others has always been a central human story.

Rather than forgoing sex, we can be strive to be more creative and generous in our interpersonal relationships, whether they be sexual or otherwise. That starts by thinking deeply about what we want so that we can articulate it to another person. It continues by finding a receptive and respectful person or people to have sex with. It continues by being a receptive and respectful person. It ends never.

The emotional work that sex asks us to do is the same emotional work a life of growth requires. The decision to indefinitely avoid sexual relationships from a place of fear is deeply understandable. But it is also a decision to constrict the edges of one’s experience; it is a decision to disengage from that which induces greater vulnerability, and greater tenderness.

http://www.latimes.com/opinion/opinion-l...story.html

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09-08-2016, 02:56 AM
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RE: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.
hilarious how they didn't talk about PORN as one of the culprits.

i also think we are reaching the endpoint of feminism where many guys are turned off by the modern female. MGTOW is a good example of a large movement that is avoiding women altogether

5-10 years ago, the western media began talking about herbivore males in japan not having sex

i said it would happen in the US very shortly as Japan is often a trendsetter country

not surprisingly japan was and probably still is the porn capital of the world
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09-08-2016, 05:21 AM
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Too much soy or too much saltpeter...or too much Internet???!!
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09-08-2016, 05:48 AM (This post was last modified: 09-08-2016 07:57 AM by Coffee Guy.)
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RE: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.
Lol... After reading the first sentence I knew the article would be filled with lies and misinformation. Here are the real reasons, if the articles premise is even true (im not sure it is).

1. Feminsm has made relationships and marriage a lot less desirable. Its not special to be with a girl who has ridden the cock carousel.

2. The food and water has been poisoned to the extent that on average a males testosterone levels will be lower then the men of previous generations.

3. Porn is (a dangerous) escape from reality. But can easily fulfill men's sexual desires.

4. The top 50 percent of women only sleep with the top 15 percent of men.
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09-08-2016, 10:31 AM
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If you've never developed the skills to get laid, chances are you lack the skills to find meaningful employment.

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09-08-2016, 11:10 AM
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RE: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.
Wasn't the whole premise of Dr. Strangelove the movie was that the addled General Ripper was bent on attacking the Soviet Union was that he was rendered impotent because the fluoridation of the water???!!!

So present day causes of making men (and women) to have less libido are working, but very few people are complaining???!!!
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09-08-2016, 11:36 AM
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RE: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.
(09-08-2016 11:10 AM)ba_dass Wrote:  Wasn't the whole premise of Dr. Strangelove the movie was that the addled General Ripper was bent on attacking the Soviet Union was that he was rendered impotent because the fluoridation of the water???!!!

So present day causes of making men (and women) to have less libido are working, but very few people are complaining???!!!
Fluoride is the main ingredient in antidepressants as well.

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09-08-2016, 11:49 AM
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RE: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.
(09-08-2016 11:10 AM)ba_dass Wrote:  Wasn't the whole premise of Dr. Strangelove the movie was that the addled General Ripper was bent on attacking the Soviet Union was that he was rendered impotent because the fluoridation of the water???!!!

So present day causes of making men (and women) to have less libido are working, but very few people are complaining???!!!

the communist conspiracy to impurify all of our precious bodily fluids!!!??
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09-08-2016, 11:49 AM
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09-08-2016, 03:35 PM
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RE: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.
(09-08-2016 05:21 AM)ba_dass Wrote:  Too much soy or too much saltpeter...or too much Internet???!!

Hahaha!

I have noticed these millennials, the white males, well, and the Asian males, their mannerisms and speech are often very effeminate. They have this effete way of talking to each other, it's pretty annoying. And they talk to women this way too. It's just how they talk. Don't sound like they'll produce a very large generation. You can see white people dying out in a few generations if this persists.
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09-08-2016, 03:50 PM
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RE: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.
i believe it.

i think most of it is not due to GMO or fluoride. i'm seeing the same stuff worldwide.

i think it's due to too much sex promotion in the media, easy availability of porn, girls being too easy hence less desirable to males

guys worldwide are just not chasing women as hard as 10 years ago or further back

when I go out with my guy friends even ones in their mid to late 20's conversations about girls make up prob only 10% of the convo
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09-08-2016, 03:59 PM
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(09-08-2016 03:50 PM)EVILYOSHIDA Wrote:  i believe it.

i think most of it is not due to GMO or fluoride. i'm seeing the same stuff worldwide.

i think it's due to too much sex promotion in the media, easy availability of porn, girls being too easy hence less desirable to males

guys worldwide are just not chasing women as hard as 10 years ago or further back

when I go out with my guy friends even ones in their mid to late 20's conversations about girls make up prob only 10% of the convo

Girls can get all the male attention than want through instagram and snapchat without risking pregnancy, STDs or slut shaming.
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09-08-2016, 04:27 PM
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RE: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years.
even with that guys are tired of that stuff too

see a lot of hot girls on twitter, youtube etc. and no one is trying to contact them

go to the club and very attractive girls are just sitting by themselves all night waiting for guys to initiate.

it's very weird what is happening
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09-08-2016, 04:32 PM
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social media is another thing. so many girls to potentially talk to using various apps.

it's like going to a restaurant with 200 choices, you end up not knowing what to choose and you get confused.
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09-08-2016, 04:37 PM
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Women are bitches and want to wear the pants.

That is not their role and they are suffering for it.

Stop trying to be the man and be a woman and they will see things get better.

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